What is CNM?

CNM or Consensual Non-Monogomy (which can also be known as expansive relationships, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), polyamory, relationship anarchy, swinging, or open relationships) refers to any relationship dynamic in which people consent to pursue sexual, romantic, or alternative connections with multiple people.

Relationship dynamics are different for everybody, and we want to create a space to learn more and get to know other people who are exploring it too.

CNM Resources

Watch & Listen

The Multiamory Podcast
Non-Monogamy Help
Remodeled Podcast
Remodeled Love
Dana and the Wolf


Building Open Relationships: Your Hands-On Guide to Swinging, Polyamory, and Beyond!
by Liz Powell

Decolonizing Non-Violent Communication
Co—Conspirator Press with the support of Feminist Center for Creative Work

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships
by Mark A Michaels and Patricia Johnson

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton

Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships
by Kathy Labriola

Love in Abundance: A Counselor’s Advice on Open Relationships
by Kathy Labriola

Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
by Kevin A Patterson

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
by Tristan Taormino

Many Love: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s)
by Sophie Lucido Johnson

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
by Esther Perel

Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships
by Jase Lindgren, Dedeker Winston, and Emily Sotelo Matlack

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD

A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous
by Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers

The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival
by Kathy Labriola

Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships
by Kathy Labriola

Polyamory and Parenthood: Navigating Non-Monogamy as Parents of Young Children
by Jessica Daylover and Joseph Daylover

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
by Jessica Fern

Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships
Jessica Fern and David Cooley

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

Someone You Love Is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships
by Dr. Elisabeth Scheff

The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love
by Dedeker Winston

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity
by Esther Perel

Unmasking Autism
by Devon Price, PhD

Other Resources

Poly in the Media
Intentional Polyamory
Mastering BAES
Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories

Find Support in Pittsburgh

CNM Pittsburgh Telegram Group
Email trishaswindell@gmail.com if you'd like to join!

Poly in Pittsburgh Discussion Group
facebook group

Pittsburgh Alternative Relationship Group (PARG)
meetup group

Crystal Cuddle Therapy
authentic relating events